My life in sex: ‘In the 60s sexual liberation was everywhere, but I was a prude’
I am a 71-year-old woman with an appetite for sexsome people would consider inappropriate for my age. This is a complete change from how I was as a young woman.
During my early life, the quick “in-and-out” I experienced put me off sex, and my quest for love seemed more important. It was only in later life that I loosened up and discovered there is much more to it.
I feel my sexuality is an important part of my identity, although it has been a struggle for me to overcome the sexual repression that came from my upbringing. During the 1960s and 70s, the idea of sexual liberation was everywhere, but Iremainedprudish despitebeing fascinated by sex. Eventually, I sought therapy, which gave me a new confidence. I have been pleasantly surprised by the generosity of men I have known, and impressed by their knowledge and skill in giving me pleasure.
I married late and our relationship has given me the closeness and affectionlacking in my childhood. It was love at first sight and the sexual chemistry between us was amazing. Initially, I found it difficult to know exactly what I wanted sexually, due to my limited experience. Although I was open-minded and adventurous it took me some years to become more relaxed and spontaneous.
I think of sex as a grown-up form of play and recognise there are many ways of getting sexual pleasure. I have been married for 25 years. Any lingering feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment have disappeared, and I am able to satisfy my sexual needs through intercourse, masturbation and fantasy.
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